Welcome the New Year with Inspiration

As the holiday season begins, I find myself looking back on all that has unfolded this year and looking forward with hope to the year ahead. My social media feed is full of touching, uplifting messages and videos—reminders of resilience, creativity, and the simple goodness in the world. Best wishes for the holidays and the New Year and I hope you will enjoy the two inspiring videos.

1. Nine life lessons from comedian Tim Minchin, presented at the University of Western Australia. His humor and wisdom offer a refreshing take on what truly matters.

2. A powerful story about transforming disaster into blessing.
If you ever feel stuck or unsure about the future, this video is a beautiful reminder that unexpected turns can lead to new possibilities.

Wishing you a healthy and inspiring New Year!

Erik


Reduce Interpersonal Stress*

Adapted from: Peper, E. & Harvey, R. Adjunctive techniques to reduce interpersonal stress at home. Biofeedback. 53(3), 54-57. https://rdcu.be/eMJqt

Stress often triggers defensive reactions—manifesting as anger, frustration, or anxiety that may mirror fight-or-flight responses. These reactions can reduce rational thinking, increase long-term health risks, and contribute to psychological and physiological disorders. and complicate the management of specific symptoms. Outlined are some pragmatic techniques that can be implemented during the day to interrupt and reduce stress.

After we had been living in our house for a few years, a new neighbor moved in next door. Within months, she accused us of moving things in her yard, blamed us when there was a leak in her house, claimed we were blowing leaves from her property onto other neighbors’ properties, and even screamed at her tenants to the extent that the police were called numerous times. Just looking at her house through the window was enough to make my shoulders tighten and leave me feeling upset.

When I drove home and saw her standing in front of her house, I would drive around the block one more time to avoid her while . . . feeling my body contract. Often, when I woke up in the morning, I would already anticipate conflict with my neighbor. I would share stories of my disturbing neighbor and her antics with my friends. They were very supportive and agreed with me that she was crazy. However, the acknowledgment and validation from my friends did not resolve my anger or indignation or the anxiety that was triggered whenever I saw my neighbor or thought of her. I spent far too much time anticipating and thinking about her, which resulted in tension in my own body—my heart rate would increase, and my neck and shoulders would tighten.

I decided to change. I knew I could not change her; however, I could change my reactivity and perspective. Thus, I practiced a “pause and recenter” technique. At the first moment of awareness that I was thinking about her or her actions, I would change my posture by sitting up straight, begin looking upward, breathe lower and slower, and then, in my mind’s eye, send a thought of goodwill streaming to her like an ocean wave flowing through and around her in the distance. I chose to do this series of steps because I believe that within every person, no matter how crazy or cruel, there is a part that is good, and it is that part I want to support.

I repeated this pause and recenter technique many times, especially whenever I looked in the direction of her house or saw her in her yard. I also reframed and reappraised her aggressive, negative behavior as her way of coping with her own demons. Three months later, I no longer reacted defensively. When I see her, I can say hello and discuss the weather without triggering my defensive reaction. I feel so much more at peace living where I am.

When stressed, angry, rejected, frustrated, or hurt, we so often blame the other person (Leary, 2015). The moment we think about that person or event, our anger, indignation, resentment, and frustration are triggered. We keep rehashing what happened. As we relive the experiences in our mind, we are unaware that we are also reliving bodily reactions to past events.

We are often unaware of the harm we are doing to ourselves until we experience physical symptoms such as high blood pressure, gastrointestinal distress, and muscle tightness along with behavioral and psychological symptoms such as insomnia, anxiety, or depression (Carney et al., 2006; Gerin et al., 2012). As we think of past events or interact again with a person involved in those past events, our body automatically responds with a defense reaction as if we were being threatened again in the present moment.

This defense reaction to memory of past threats from a “crazy” neighbor activates our fight-or-flight responses and increases sympathetic activation so that we can run faster and fight more ferociously to survive; however, this reaction also reduces blood flow through the frontal cortex—a process that reduces our ability to think rationally (van Dinther et al., 2024; Willeumier, et al., 2011). When we become so upset and stressed that our mind is captured by the other person, this reaction contributes to symptoms of chronic stress such as an increase in hypertension, myofascial pain, depression, insomnia, cardiovascular disease, and other chronic disorders (Duan et al., 2022; Russell et al., 2015; Suls, 2013).

Sharing our frustrations with friends and others is normal. It feels good to blame people for their personal limitations or mental illness; however, over time, blaming others avoids building adaptive capacity in strengthening skills that reduce chronic stress reactions (Fast & Tiedens, 2010; Lou et al., 2023). The time spent rehashing and justifying our feelings diminishes the time we spend in the present moment and our focus on upcoming opportunities.

In the moment of an encounter with a difficult neighbor, we may not realize that we have a choice. Some people keep living and reacting to past hurts or losses perpetually. Some people can learn to let go and/or forgive and make space in favor of considering new opportunities for learning and growth. Although the choice is ours, it is often very challenging to implement—even with the best intentions—because we react automatically when reminded of past hurts (seeing that person, anticipating meeting or actually meeting that person who caused the hurt, or being triggered by other events that evoke memories of the pain).

What Can You Do

Choose to change your response. Choose to reduce reactivity. Choosing adaptive reactions does not mean you condone what happened or agree that the other person was right. You are just choosing to live your life and not continue to be captured by nor react to the previous triggers. Many people report that after implementing some of the practices described below along with many other stress management techniques, their automatic reactivity was noticeably decreased. They report that their chronic stress symptoms were reduced and they have the freedom to live in present instead of being captured by the painful past.

Pause and Recenter by Sending Goodwill

Our automatic reaction to the trigger elicits a defense reaction that reduces our ability to think rationally. Therefore, the moment you anticipate or begin to react, take three very slow diaphragmatic breaths, inhaling for approximately 4–5 seconds and exhaling for about 5–6 seconds, where one in-and-out breath takes about 10 seconds to complete. As you inhale, allow your abdomen to expand; then as you exhale, slowly make yourself tall and look up. Looking up allows easier access to empowering and positive memories (Peper et al., 2017).

Continue looking up, inhaling slowly to allow the abdomen to expand. Repeat this slow breath again. On the third long, slow breath, while looking up, evoke a memory of someone in whose presence you felt at peace and who loves you, such as your grandmother, aunt, uncle, or even a pet. Reawaken positive feelings associated with memories of being loved. Allow a smile inwardly or outwardly and soften your eyes as you experience the loving memory.

Next, put your hands on your chest, take another long slow breath as your abdomen expands, and as you exhale bring your hands away from your chest and stretch them out in front of you. At the same time in your mind’s eye, imagine sending goodwill to that person involved in the interpersonal conflict that previously evoked your stress response. As if you are sending an ocean wave that is streaming outward to the person.

As you do the pause and recenter technique, remember you are not condoning what happened; instead, you are sending goodwill to that person’s positive aspect. From this perspective, everyone has an intrinsic component—however small—that some label as the individual’s human potential, Christ nature or Buddha nature.

Why would this be effective? This practice short-circuits the automatic stress response and provides time to recenter, interrupting ongoing rumination by shifting the mind away from thoughts about the person or event that induced stress toward a positive memory. By evoking a loving memory from the past, we facilitate a reduction in arousal, evoke a positive mood, and decrease sympathetic nervous system activation (Speer & Delgado, 2017). Slower diaphragmatic breathing also reduces sympathetic activation (Birdee et al., 2023; Siedlecki et al., 2022). By combining body-centered and mind-centered techniques, we can pause and create the opportunity to respond positively rather than reacting with anger and hurt.

Practice Sending Goodwill the Moment You Wake Up

So often when we wake up, we anticipate the challenges, and even the prospect of interacting with a person or event heightens our defense reaction. Therefore, as soon as you wake up, sit at the edge of the bed, repeat the previous practice, pause, and center. Then, as you sit at the edge of the bed, slightly smile with soft eyes, look up, and inhale as your abdomen expands. Then, stamp a foot into the floor while saying, “Today is a new day.” Next, inhale, allowing your abdomen to expand; as you look up, stamp the opposite foot on the floor while saying, “Today is a new day.” Finally, send goodwill to the person who previously triggered your defensive reaction.

Why would this be effective? Looking up makes it easier to access positive memories and thoughts. Stamping your foot on the ground is a nonverbal expression of determination and anchors the thought of a new day, thereby focusing on new opportunities (Feldman, 2022).

Interrupt the Stress Response with the ABCs

The moment you notice discomfort, pain, stress, or negative thoughts, interrupt the cycle with a simple ABC strategy (Peper, 2025):

  • Adjust posture and look up
  • Breathe by allowing your abdomen to relax and expand while inhaling
  • Change your internal dialogue, smile and focus on what you want to do

Why would this be effective? By shifting your posture and gently looking upward, you make it easier to access positive and empowering memories and thoughts (Peper et al., 2019).  This simple change in body position can interrupt habitual stress responses and open the doorway to more constructive states.

Slow, diaphragmatic breathing further supports this process by reducing sympathetic arousal and restoring a sense of calm. As your breathing deepens, clarity of mind increases, allowing you to respond rather than react (Peper et al, 2024b; Matto et al, 2025).

Equally important is transforming critical, judgmental, or negative self-talk into affirmative, supportive statements. Describe what you want to do—rather than what you want to avoid. This reframing creates a clear internal guide and significantly increases the likelihood that you will achieve your desired goals.

Complete the Alarm Reaction a Burst of Physical Activity

When you feel overwhelmed and fully captured by a stress reaction, one of the most effective strategies is to complete the fight-flight response with a brief burst of intense physical activity. This momentary action such as running in place, vigorously shaking your arms, or doing a few rapid push-offs from a wall (Peper et al., 2024a). After completing the physical activity implement your stress management strategies such as breathing, cognitive reframing, meditation, etc.

Why would this be effective? The intense physical activity discharges the excessive physiological arousal and interrupts the cycle of rumination.  For practical examples and step-by-step guidance, see the article Quick Rescue Techniques When Stressed (Peper et al., 2024a) or the accompanying blog post: https://peperperspective.com/2024/02/04/quick-rescue-techniques-when-stressed/

Discuss Your Issue from the Third-Person Perspective

When thinking, ruminating, talking, texting, or writing about the event, discuss it from the third-person perspective. Replace the first-person pronoun “I” with “she” or “he.” For example, instead of saying “I was really pissed off when my boss criticized my work without giving any positive suggestions for improvement,” say “He was really pissed off when his boss criticized his work without offering any positive suggestions for improvement.”

Why would this be effective? The act of substituting the third-person pronoun for the first-person pronoun interrupts our automatic reactivity because it requires us to observe and change our language, which activates parts of the frontal cortex. This third-person/first-person process creates a psychological distance from our feelings, allowing for a more objective and calmer perspective on the situation, effectively reducing stress by stepping back from the immediate emotional response (Moser et al., 2017). This process can be interpreted as meaning that you are no longer fully captured by the emotions, as you are simultaneously the observer of your own inner language and speech.

Compare Yourself with Others Who are less Fortunate

When you feel sorry for yourself or hurt, take a breath, look upward, and compare yourself with others who are suffering much more. In that moment, consider yourself incredibly lucky compared with people enduring extreme poverty, bombings, or severe disfigurement. Be grateful for what you have.

Why would this be effective? Research shows that when we compare ourselves with people who are more successful, we tend to feel worse—especially when we have low self-esteem. However, when we compare ourselves with others who are suffering more, we tend to feel better (Aspinwall, & Taylor, 1993). This comparison relativizes our perspective on suffering, making our own hardships and suffering seem less significant compared with the severe suffering of others.

Conclusion

It is much easier to write and talk about these practices than to implement them. Reminding yourself to implement them can be very challenging. It requires significant effort and commitment. In some cases, the benefits are not experienced immediately; however, when practiced many times during the day for six to eight weeks, many people report feeling less resentment and experience a reduction in symptoms and improvements in health and relationships.

*This blog was inspired by the podcast “No Hard Feelings,” an episode on Hidden Brain produced by Shankar Vedantam (2025) that featured psychologist Fred Luskin, and the wisdom taught by Dora Kunz (Kunz & Peper, 1983, 1984a, 1984b, 1987).

See the following posts for more relevant information

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Breathe Away Menstrual Pain- A Simple Practice That Brings Relief *

Adapted from: Peper, E. Harvey, R., Chen, & Heinz, N. (2025). Practicing diaphragmatic breathing reduces menstrual symptoms both during in-person and synchronous online teaching. Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback, Published online: 25 October 2025.  https://rdcu.be/eMJqt  https://doi.org/10.1007/s10484-025-09745-7

“Once again, the pain starts—sharp, deep, and overwhelming—until all I can do is curl up and wait for it to pass. There’s no way I can function like this, so I call in sick. The meds take the edge off, but they don’t really fix anything—they just mask it for a little while. I usually don’t tell anyone it’s menstrual pain; I just say I’m not feeling well. For the next couple of days, I’m completely drained, struggling just to make it through.

Many women experience discomfort during menstruation, from mild cramps to intense, even disabling pain. When the pain becomes severe, the body instinctively responds by slowing down—encouraging rest, curling up to protect the abdomen, and often reaching for medication in hopes of relief. For most, the symptoms ease within a day or two, occasionally stretching into three, before the body gradually returns to balance.

Another helpful approach is to practice slow abdominal breathing, guided by a breathing app FlowMD. In our study led by Mattia Nesse, PhD, in Italy, the response of one 22-year-old woman illustrated the power of this simple practice.

“Last night my period started, so I was a bit discouraged because I knew I’d get stomach pain, etc. On the other hand, I said, “Okay, let’s see if the breathing works,” and it was like magic — incredible. I’ll need to try it more times to understand whether it consistently has the same effect, but right now it truly felt magical. Just 3 minutes of deep breathing with the app were enough, and I’m not saying I don’t feel any pain anymore, but it has decreased a lot, so thank you! Thank you again for this tool… I’m really happy!”

The Silent Burden of Menstrual Pain

Menstrual pain, or dysmenorrhea, affects most women at some point in their lives — often silently. For many, the monthly cycle brings not only physical discomfort but also shame, fatigue, and interruptions to work or school. It is one of the leading causes of absenteeism and reduced productivity worldwide (Itani et al., 2022; Thakur & Pathania, 2022).  In addition, the estimated health cost ranged from US $1367 to US$ 7043 per year (Huang et al., 2021). Yet, despite its prevalence, most women are never taught how to use their own physiology to ease these symptoms.

The Study (Peper et al, 2025)

Seventy-five university women participated across two upper-division Holistic Health courses. Forty-nine practiced 30 minutes per day of breathing and relaxation over five weeks as well as practicing the moment they anticipated or felt discomfort; twenty-six served as a comparison group without a specific daily self-care routine. Students rated change in menstrual symptoms on a scale from –5 (“much worse”) to +5 (“much better”). For the detailed steps in training,  see the blog: https://peperperspective.com/2023/04/22/hope-for-menstrual-cramps-dysmenorrhea-with-breathing/ (Peper et al., 2023).

 What changed

The results were striking. Women who practiced breathing and relaxation showed significant decrease in menstrual symptoms compared to the non-intervention group (p = 0.0008) as shown in Figure 1.

Figure 1. Decrease in menstrual symptoms as compared to the control group after implementing slow diaphragmatic breathing.

Why does breathing and posture change have a beneficial effect?

When you stay curled up, your abdomen becomes compressed, leaving little room for the lower belly to relax or for the diaphragm to move freely. The result? Tension builds, and pain often increases.

To reverse this, create space for relaxation. Gently loosen your waist and let your abdomen expand as you inhale. Uncurl your body—lengthen your spine and open your chest, as shown in Figure 2. With each easy breath, you invite calm and allow your body to shift from tension to ease.

Figure 2. Curling up compresses the abdomen and prevents relaxation of the lower belly. In contrast, lying flat with the body gently expanded allows the abdomen to move freely with each breath, which can help reduce menstrual discomfort.

In contrast, slow abdominal or diaphragmatic breathing activates the body’s natural relaxation response. It quiets the stress-driven sympathetic nervous system, calms the mind, and improves circulation in the abdominal area. With each slow breath in, the abdomen gently expands while the pelvic floor and abdominal muscles relax. As you exhale, these muscles naturally tighten slightly, helping to massage and move blood and lymph through the abdominal region. This rhythmic movement supports healing and ease, as illustrated in Figure 3.

Figure 3. The dynamic process of diaphragmatic breathing.

The process of slower, lower diaphragmatic breathing

When lying down, rest comfortably on your back with your legs slightly apart. Allow your abdomen to rise naturally as you inhale and fall as you exhale. As you breathe out, imagine the air flowing through your abdomen, down your legs, and out through your feet. To deepen this sensation, you can ask a partner to gently stroke from your abdomen down your legs as you exhale—helping you sense the flow of release through your body.

Gently focus on slow, effortless diaphragmatic breathing. With each inhalation, your abdomen expands, and the lower belly softens. As you exhale, the abdomen gently goes down pushing the diaphragm upward and allowing the air to leave easily. Breathing slowly—about six breaths per minute—helps engage the body’s natural relaxation response.

If you notice that your breath is staying high in your chest instead of expanding through the abdomen, your symptoms may not improve and can even increase. One participant experienced this at first. After learning to let her abdomen expand with each inhalation while keeping her shoulders and chest relaxed, her next menstrual cycle was markedly easier and far less uncomfortable. The lesson is clear: technique matters.

“During times of pain, I practiced lying down and breathing through my stomach… and my cramps went away within ten minutes. It was awesome.” — 22-year-old college student

“Whenever I felt my cramps worsening, I practiced slow deep breathing for five to ten minutes. The pain became less debilitating, and I didn’t need as many painkillers.” — 18-year-old college student

These successes point out that it’s not just breathing — it’s how you breathe by providing space for the abdomen to expand during inhalation.

Practice: How to Do Diaphragmatic Breathing

  1. Find a quiet space. Lie on your back or sit comfortably erect with your shoulders relaxed.
  2. Place one hand on your chest and one on your abdomen.
  3. Inhale slowly through your nose for about 3–4 seconds. Let your abdomen expand as you breathe in — your chest should remain relaxed.
  4. Exhale gently through your mouth for 4—6 seconds, allowing the abdomen to fall or constrict naturally.
  5. As you exhale imagine the air moving down your arms, through your abdomen, down your legs, and out your feet
  6. Practice daily for 20 minutes and also for 5–10 minutes during the day when menstrual discomfort begins.
  7. Add warmth. Placing a warm towel or heating pad over your abdomen can enhance relaxation while lying on your back and breathing slowly.

With regular practice and implementing it during the day when stressed, this simple method can reduce cramps, promote calm, and reconnect you with your body’s natural rhythm.

Implement the ABCs during the day

The ABC sequence—adapted from the work of Dr. Charles Stroebel, who developed The Quieting Reflex (Stroebel, 1982)—teaches a simple way to interrupt stress reactions in real time. The moment you notice discomfort, pain, stress, or negative thoughts, interrupt the cycle with a simple ABC strategy:

A — Adjust your posture

Sit or stand tall, slightly arch your lower back and allowing the abdomen to expand while you inhale and look up. This immediately shifts your body out of the collapsed “defense posture’ and increases access to positive thoughts (Tsai et all, 2016; Peper et al., 2019)

B — Breathe

Allow your abdomen to expand as you inhale slowly and deeply. Let it get smaller as you exhale. Gently make a soft hissing sound as you exhale while helps the abdomen and pelvic floor to tighten.  Then allow the abdomen to relax and widen which without effort draws the air in during inhalation. As you exhale, stay tall and imagine the air flowing  through you and down your legs and out your feet.

C — Concentrate

Refocus your attention on what you want to do and add a gentle smile. This engages positive emotions, the smile helps downshift tension.

The video clip guides you through the ABCs process.

Integrate the breathing during the day by implementing your ABCs

When students practice relaxation technique and this method, they reported greater reductions in symptoms compared with a control group. By learning to notice tension and apply the ABC steps as soon as stress arises, they could shift their bodies and minds toward calm more quickly, as shown in Figure 4.

Figure 4. Change in symptoms after practicing a sequential relaxation and breathing techniques for four weeks.

Takeaway

Menstrual pain doesn’t have to be endured in silence or masked by medication alone. By practicing 30 minutes of slow diaphragmatic breathing daily and many times during the day, women may be able to reduce pain, stress, and discomfort — while building self-awareness and confidence in their body’s natural rhythms thereby having the opportunity to be more productive.

See the following blogs for more in-depth information and practical tips on how to learn and apply diaphragmatic breathing:

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Huang, G., Le, A. L., Goddard, Y., James, D., Thavorn, K., Payne, M., & Chen, I. (2022). A systematic review of the cost of chronic pelvic pain in women. Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Canada, 44(3), 286–293.e3. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jogc.2021.08.011

Joseph, A. E., Moman, R. N., Barman, R. A., Kleppel, D. J., Eberhart, N. D., Gerberi, D. J., Murad, M. H., & Hooten, W. M. (2022). Effects of slow deep breathing on acute clinical pain in adults: A systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized controlled trials. Journal of Evidence-Based Integrative Medicine, 27, 2515690X221078006. https://doi.org/10.1177/2515690X221078006

Peper, E., Booiman, A. & Harvey, R.  (2025). Pain-There is Hope. Biofeedback, 53(1), 1-9. http://doi.org/10.5298/1081-5937-53.01.16

Peper, E., Chen, S., Heinz, N., & Harvey, R. (2023). Hope for menstrual cramps (dysmenorrhea) with breathing. Biofeedback51(2), 44–51. https://doi.org/10.5298/1081-5937-51.2.04

Peper, E., Harvey, R., Chen, S., & Heinz, N. (2025). Practicing diaphragmatic breathing reduces menstrual symptoms both during in-person and synchronous online teaching. Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback. Published online: 25 October 2025.  https://rdcu.be/eMJqt  https://doi.org/10.1007/s10484-025-09745-7

Peper, E., Harvey, R., & Hamiel, D. (2019). Transforming thoughts with postural awareness to increase therapeutic and teaching efficacy.  NeuroRegulation, 6(3),153-169.  https://doi.org/10.15540/nr.6.3.1533-1 

Stroebel, C. (1982). The Quieting Reflex. New York: Putnam Pub Group. https://www.amazon.com/Qr-Quieting-Charles-M-D-Stroebel/dp/0399126570/

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Tsai, H. Y., Peper, E., & Lin, I. M. (2016). EEG patterns under positive/negative body postures and emotion recall tasks. NeuroRegulation, 3(1), 23-27.   https://doi.org/10.15540/nr.3.1.23

*Edited with the help of ChatGPT 5


Ensorcelled: Breaking the Digital Enchantment

My mom called, “Stop playing on your computer and come for dinner!” I heard her, but I was way too into my game. It felt like I was actually inside it. I think I yelled “Yeah!” back, but I didn’t move.

A few seconds later, I was totally sucked into this awesome world where I was conquering other galaxies. My avatar was super powerful, and I was winning this crazy battle.

Then, all of a sudden, my mom came into my room and just turned off the computer. I was so mad. I was about to win! The real world around me felt boring and empty. I didn’t even feel hungry anymore. I didn’t say anything, I just wanted to go back to my game.

For some, the virtual world feels more real and exciting than the actual one. It can seem more vivid precisely because they have not yet tasted the full, multi-dimensional richness of real human connection, those moments when you feel seen, touched, and understood.

This theme comes vividly alive in my son Eliot Peper’s new novella, Ensorcelled. I am so proud of him. He has crafted a story in which a young boy, captured by the spell of the immersive digital world, discovers that real-life experiences carry far deeper meaning. I won’t give away the plot, but the story creates the experience, it doesn’t just tell it. It reminds us that meaning and belonging arise through genuine connection, not through screens. As Eliot writes, “Sometimes a story is the only thing that can save your life.” It’s a story everyone should read.

The effects of our immersive digital world

Our new world of digital media can take over the reality of actual experiences. It is no wonder that more young people feel stressed and have social anxiety when they have to make an actual telephone call instead of texting  (Jin, 2025).  They also experience a significant increase in anxiety and depression and feel more awkward initiating in-person social communication with others. The increase in mental health problems and social isolation affects predominantly those who are cellphone and social media natives; namely, those who started to use social media after Facebook was released in 2004 and the iPhone in 2007  (Braghieri et al., 2022).

Students who are most often on their phone whether streaming videos, scrolling, texting, watching YouTube, Instagram or TikTok, and more importantly responding to notifications from phones when they are socializing,  report higher levels of loneliness, depression and anxiety as shown inf Figure 1 (Peper & Harvey 2018). They also report less positive feelings and energy when they communicate with each other online as compared to  in person (Peper & Harvey, 2024).

Figure 1. The those with the highest phone use were the most lonely, depressed and anxious (Peper and Harvey, 2018).

Even students’ sexual activity has decreased in U.S. high-school from 2013 to 2023 and young adults (ages 18-44) from 2000-2018 (CDC, 2023; Ueda et al., 2020). Much of this may be due to the reality that adolescents have reduced face-to-face socializing (dating, parties, going out) while increasing their time on digital media (Twenge et al., 2019).

What to do

As a parent it often feels like a losing battle to pull your child, or even yourself, away from the intoxicating digital media, since the digital world is supercharged with  AI-generated media. It is  all aimed at capturing eyeballs (your attention and time),  resulting reducing genuine human social connection. (Peper at al., 2020; Haidt, 2024). To change behavior is challenging and yet rewarding. If possible, implement the following (Peper at al., 2020; Twenge, 2025; Haidt, 2024):

  • Create tech-free zones. Keep phones and devices out of bedrooms, the dinner table, and family gatherings. Make these spaces sacred for real connection.
  • Avoid screens before bedtime. Turn off screens at least an hour before bed. Replace scrolling with quiet reflection, reading, or gentle stretching. Read or tell actual stories before bedtime.
  • Explore why we turn to digital media. Before you open an app, ask: Why am I doing this? Am I bored, anxious, or avoiding something? Awareness shifts behavior.
  • Provide unstructured time. Let yourself and your children be bored sometimes. Boredom sparks creativity, imagination, and self-discovery.
  • Create shared experiences. Plan family activities that don’t involve screens—cooking, hiking, playing music, or simply talking. Real connection satisfies what digital media only mimics.
  • Implement social support. Coordinate with other parents, friends, or colleagues to agree on digital limits. Shared norms make it easier to follow through.
  • Model what you want your children to do. Children imitate what they see. When adults practice digital restraint, kids learn that real life matters more than screen life.

We have a choice. 

We can set limits now and experience real emotional connection and growth or become captured, enslaved, and manipulated by the corporate creators, producers and sellers of media.

Read Ensorcelled. which uses storytelling, the traditional way to communicate concepts and knowledge. Read it, share it. It may change your child’s life and your own.  

Available from

Signed copy by author: https://store.eliotpeper.com/products/ensorcelled

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References

Braghieri, L., Levy, R., & Makarin, A. (2022).  Social Media and Mental Health (July 28, 2022)   http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3919760

CDC. (2023). Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2023). Youth Risk Behavior Survey: Data summary & trends report 2011–2021. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/index.htm

Haidt, J. (2024). The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. New York: Penguin Press. https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Jin, B. (2025). Avoidance and Anxiety About Phone Calls in Young Adults: The Role of Social Anxiety and Texting Controllability. Communication Reports, 1–14. https://doi.org/10.1080/08934215.2025.2542562

Peper, E. & Harvey, R. (2018). Digital addiction: increased loneliness, depression, and anxiety. NeuroRegulation. 5(1),3–8doi:10.15540/nr.5.1.3 5(1),3–8. http://www.neuroregulation.org/article/view/18189/11842

Peper, E. & Harvey, R. (2024). Smart phones affects social communication, vision, breathing, and mental and physical health: What to do! Townsend Letter-Innovative Health Perspectives, September 15, 2024. https://townsendletter.com/smartphone-affects-social-communication-vision-breathing-and-mental-and-physical-health-what-to-do/

Peper, E., Harvey, R. & Faass, N. (2020). TechStress: How Technology is Hijacking Our Lives, Strategies for Coping, and Pragmatic Ergonomics. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books.

Ueda, P., Mercer, C. H., Ghaznavi, C., & Herbenick, D. (2020). Trends in frequency of sexual activity and number of sexual partners among adults aged 18 to 44 years in the US, 2000–2018. JAMA Network Open, 3(6), e203833. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2020.3833

Twenge, J.M. (2025). 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World: How Parents Can Stop Smartphones, Social Media, and Gaming from Taking Over Their Children’s Lives.  New York: Atria Books. https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Raising-Kids-High-Tech-World/dp/1668099993

Twenge, J. M., Spitzberg, B. H., & Campbell, W. K. (2019). Less in-person social interaction with peers among U.S. adolescents in the 21st century and links to loneliness. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships36(6), 1892-1913. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407519836170


Exploring the pain-brain-breathing connection

If you’re curious about how the mind and body interplay in shaping pain—or looking for real, actionable techniques grounded in research listen to this episode of the Heart Rate Variability Podcast, Matt Bennett interviews Dr. Erik Peper about his article and blogpost Pain – There Is Hope. The conversation takes listeners beyond the common perception of pain as merely a physical response. It is a balanced mix of scientific depth and real-life applications, especially valuable for anyone interested in self-healing, holistic health, or understanding mind-body medicine. Moreover, it explains how pain is shaped by posture, breathing, mindset, and emotional context. Finally, it provides practical strategies to shift the pain experience, offering an uplifting and science-backed blend of understanding and hope.

If you find this helpful, let me know! And feel free to share it with friends and post it on your social channels so more people can benefit.

Blogs that complement this interview

If you  want to explore further, check out the companion blog posts I hve created to expand on the themes from this discussion. These blogs highlight practical strategies, scientific insights, and everyday applications.  


Healing from the Inside Out: How Your Mind–Body Shapes Pain

Adapted from Peper, E., Booiman, A. C., & Harvey, R. (2025). Pain-There is Hope. Biofeedback, 53(1), 1-9. http://doi.org/10.5298/1081-5937-53.01.16

Pain is more than a physical sensation—it’s shaped by our breath, thoughts, emotions, and beliefs. A striking example: a four-year-old received a vaccination with no pain, revealing the disconnect between what science knows about pain relief and what’s practiced.
The article highlights five key ways to reduce pain:

  1. Exhale during the painful moment – This activates the parasympathetic nervous system, calming the body. A yogi famously demonstrated this by pushing skewers through his tongue without bleeding or feeling pain.
  2. Create a sense of safety – Feeling secure can lessen pain and speed healing. Sufi mystics have shown this by pushing knives through their chest muscles without long-term damage, often healing rapidly.
  3. Distract the mind – Shifting focus can ease discomfort.
  4. Reduce anticipation – Fear of pain often amplifies it.
  5. Explore the personal meaning of pain – Understanding what pain symbolizes can shift how we experience it.

The blog also explores how the body regulates pain through mechanisms which influence inflammation and pain signals. In the end, hope, trust, and acceptance, along with mindful breathing, healing imagery, and meaningful engagement, emerge as powerful tools not just to reduce pain—but to promote true healing.

Listen to the AI generated podcast created from this article by Google NotebookLM

I took my four-year-old daughter to the pediatrician for a vaccination. As the nurse prepared to administer the shot in her upper arm. I instructed my daughter to exhale while breathing, understanding that this technique could influence her perception of pain. Despite my efforts, my daughter did not follow my instructions. At that point, the nurse interjected and said, “Please sit in front of your daughter.” Then turned to my daughter and said, “Do you see your father’s curly hair? Do you think you could blow the curls to move them back and forth?” My daughter thought this playful game was fun! As she blew at my hair, the curls moved back and forth while the nurse administered the injection. My daughter was unaware that she had received the shot and felt no pain.

My experience as a father and as a biofeedback practitioner was enlightening–it demonstrated the difference between theoretical knowledge of breathing techniques associated with pain perception and practical applications of clinical skills used by a pediatric nurse practitioner while administering an injection with children. An obvious question raised is: What processes are involved in the perception of pain?

There are many factors influencing pain perception, such as physical/physiological, behavioral and psychological/emotional factors related to the injection as described by St Clair-Jones et al., (2020). Physical and physiological considerations include device type such as needle gauge size as well as formulation volume and ingredients (e.g., adjuvants, pH, buffers), fluid viscosity, temperature, as well as possible sensitivity to coincidental exposures associated with an injection (e.g., sensitivity to latex exam gloves or some other irritant in the injection room).

There are overlapping physical and behavioral-related moderators that include weight and body fat composition, proclivity towards movements (e.g., activity level or ‘squirminess’), as well as co-morbid factors such as whether the person has body sensitization due to rheumatoid arthritis and/or fibromyalgia, for example. Other behavioral factors include a clinician selecting the injection site, along with the angle, speed or duration of injection. Psychological influences center around patient expectations including injection-anxiety or needle phobia, pain catastrophizing, as well as any nocebo effects such as white-coat hypertension.

Although the physical, behavioral and psychological categories allow for considering many physical and physiological factors (e.g., product-related factors), behavioral factors (e.g., injection-related behaviors) and psychological factors (e.g., person-related psychological attitudes, beliefs, cognitions and emotions), this article focuses on a figurative recipe for success associated with benefits of simple breathing to reduce pain perceptions.

Of the many categories of consideration related to pain perceptions, following are five key ‘recipe ingredients’ that contributed to a relatively painless experience:

  1. Exhaling During Painful Stimuli: Exhaling during a painful stimulus can activate parts of the parasympathetic nervous system leading to promotion of self-healing.
  2. Creating a Sense of Safety: Ensuring that the child feels safe and secure is crucial in managing pain. My lack of worry and concern and the nurse’s gentle and engaging approach created a comforting environment for my daughter.
  3. Using Distraction: Distraction techniques, such as focusing on the movement of the curls of the hair served to redirect my daughter’s attention away from the anticipated pain.
  4. Reducing Anticipation of Pain: My daughter’s previous visits were always enjoyable and as a parent, I was not anxious and was looking forward to the pediatrician visit and their helpful advice.
  5. Understanding the Personal Meaning of Pain: The approach taken by the nurse allowed the injection to be perceived as a non-event, thereby minimizing the psychological impact of the pain.

Exhaling During Painful Stimuli

Exhaling during painful stimuli facilitates a reduction in discomfort through several physiological mechanisms. During exhalation the parasympathetic nervous system is activated, which slows the heart rate and promotes relaxation, regeneration, reduces anxiety, and may counteract the effects of pain (Magnon et al., 2021). Breathing moderation of discomfort is observable through heart rate variability associated with slow, resonant breathing patterns, where heart rate increases with inhalation and decreases with exhalation (Lehrer & Gevirtz, 2014; Steffen et al., 2017). Physiological studies show that slow, resonant breathing at approximately six breaths per minute for adults, and a little faster for young children, causes the heart rate to increase during inhalation and decrease during exhalation, as illustrated in Figure 1.

Figure 1. Changes in heart rate as modulated by slower breathing at about six breaths per minute

One can experience how breathing affects discomfort when taking a cold shower under two conditions: As the cold water hits your skin: (1) gasping and holding your breath versus (2) exhaling slowly as the cold water hits you. Most people will report that slowly exhaling feels less uncomfortable, though they may still prefer a warm shower.

An Exercise for Use During Medical Procedures: Paring the procedure with inhalation and exhalation

A simple breathing technique can be used to reduce the experience of pain during a procedure or treatment, or during uncomfortable movement post-injury or post-surgery. Physiologically, inhalation tends to increase heart rate and sympathetic activation while exhalation reduces heart rate and increases parasympathetic activity. Often inhalation increases tension in the body, while during exhalation, one tends to relax and let go. The goal is to have the patient practice longer and slower breathing so that a procedure that might be uncomfortable is initiated during the exhalation phase. Applications of long, slow breathing techniques include having blood drawn, insertion of acupuncture needles in tender points, or movement that causes discomfort or pain. Slowly breathing is helpful in reducing many kinds of discomfort and pain perceptions (Joseph et al., 2022; Jafari et al., 2020).

Implementing the technique of exhaling during painful experiences can be deceptively simple yet challenging. When initially practicing this technique, the participants often try too hard by quickly inhaling and exhaling as the pain stimulus occurs. The effective technique involves allowing the abdomen to expand while inhaling, then allowing exhaled air to flow out while simultaneously relaxing the body and smiling slightly, and initiating the painful procedure only after about 25 percent of the air is exhaled.

Some physiological mechanisms that explain how slow breathing influences on pain perceptions have focused on baroreceptors that are mechanically sensitive to pressure and breathing dynamics. According to Suarez-Roca et al. (2021, p 29): “Several physiological factors moderate the magnitude and the direction of baroreceptor modulation of pain perception, including: (a) resting systolic and diastolic AP, (b) pain modality and dimension, (c) type of activated vagal afferent, and (d) the presence of a chronic pain condition It supports the parasympathetic activity that exert an anti-inflammatory influence, whereas the sympathetic activity is mostly pro-inflammatory. Although there are complex physiological interactions between cardiorespiratory systems, arterial pressure and baroreceptor sensitivity that influence pain perceptions, this report focuses on simpler reminders, such as creating a sense of safety for people as a result of better breathing techniques.

Creating a Sense of Safety

My young daughter did not know what to expect and totally trusted me and I was relaxed because the purpose was to enhance my daughter’s future health by giving her a vaccination to prevent being sick at a future time. Often, a parent’s anxiety is contagious to the child since expectations and emotional states influence the experience of medical procedures and pain (Sullivan et al., 2021). For my daughter, the nurse’s calm and confident demeanor contributed to a safe and reassuring environment. As a result, she was more engaged in a playful distraction, blowing at my hair, rather than focusing on the impending shot. This observation underscores an important psychological principle: when individuals do not anticipate pain and feel safe, they are more likely to experience surprise rather than distress. Conversely, anticipation of pain can amplify the perception of discomfort.

For instance, many people have experienced heightened anxiety at the dentist, where they may feel the pain of the needle before it is inserted. Anticipation evocates a past memory of pain that triggers a defensive reaction, increasing sympathetic arousal and sharpening awareness of potential danger. By providing the experience of feeling of safety, parents, caretakers, and medical professionals can play a crucial role in reducing the perceived pain of medical interventions.

Using Distraction

It is inherently difficult to attend to two tasks simultaneously; thus, focusing one’s attention on one task often diminishes awareness of pain and other stimuli (Rischer et al., 2020). For instance, when the nurse asked my daughter to see if she could blow hard enough to make the curls move back and forth, this task captured her attention in a fun and multisensory way. She was engaged visually by the movement of the curls, audibly by the sound of the rushing air, physically by the act of exhalation, and cognitively by following the instructions. Additionally, her success in moving the curls reinforced the activity as a positive and enjoyable experience.

In contrast, it is challenging to allow oneself to be distracted when anticipating discomfort, as numerous cues can continuously refocus attention on the procedure that may induce pain. This experience is akin to attempting to tickle oneself, which typically fails to elicit laughter due to the predictability and lack of external stimulation. Most of us have experienced how challenging it is to be self-directive and not focus on the sensations during dental procedures as discussed in the overview of music therapy for use in dentistry by Bradt and Teague (2018). The challenges are illustrated by my own experience during a dental cleaning

During a dental cleaning, I often attempt to distract myself by mentally visualizing the sensation of breathing down my legs while repeating an internal mantra or evoking joyful memories. Despite these efforts, I frequently find myself attending to the sound of the ultrasonic probe and the sensations in my mouth. To manage this distraction more effectively, I have found that external interventions such as listening to music or an engaging audio story through earphones is more beneficial.

From this perspective, we wished that the dentist could implement an external intervention by collaborating with a massage therapist to provide a simultaneous foot massage during the teeth cleaning. This dual stimulation would offer enough competing sensations to divert attention from the dental procedure to the comfort of the foot massage.

Reducing Anticipation of Pain

A crucial factor in the experience of pain is the anticipation and expectation of discomfort, which is often shaped by previous experiences (Henderson et al., 2020; Reicherts et al., 2017). When encountering a novel experience, we might interpret the sensations as novel rather than painful. Similar phenomena can be observed in young children when they fall or get hurt on the playground. They may initially react with surprise or shock and may look for their caretaker. Depending the reaction of their caregiver, they may begin to cry or they might cry briefly, stop and resume playing.

Conversely, the anticipation of pain can heighten sensitivity to any stimuli, causing them to be automatically perceived as painful. Anticipatory responses function as a form of mental rehearsal, where the body responds in a manner similar to the actual experience of pain. For example, Peper, et al. (2015) showed that when a pianist imagined playing the piano, her forearm flexor and extensor muscles exhibited slight contractions, even though there was no observable movement in her arm and the pianist was unaware of these contractions (see Figure 2).

Figure 2. The covert SEMG increase in forearm SEMG as the participant imagined playing the piano (reproduced by permission from Peper et al., 2015).

These kind of muscle reactions are also visible in sportsmen. For example, while mentally racing a lap on a motorbike, the arm muscles act like as if the person is racing in the dust of the circuit (Booiman 2018). The blood flow (BVP) and blood vessels are reacting even quicker than muscle tension on thoughts and expected (negative) experiences.

These findings underscore how anticipatory responses can mirror actual physical experiences, providing insights into how anticipation and expectancy can modify pain perception (Henderson et al., 2020). Understanding these mechanisms allows for the development of interventions aimed at managing pain through the modification of expectations and the introduction of distraction techniques.

The Personal Meaning of Pain (adapted from Peper, 2015)

The personal meaning of pain is a complex construct that varies significantly based on context and individual perception. For example, consider the case of a heart attack. Initially, the person might experience chest pain and dismiss it, which can be attributed to societal norms where people are conditioned to ignore pain. However, once the pain is assumed or diagnosed to be a heart attack, the same pain may become terrifying as it may signify the potential for life-threatening consequences. Following bypass surgery, the pain might actually be worse, but it is now reframed positively as a sign of the surgery’s success and a symbol of hope for survival. Thus, the meaning of pain evolves from one of fear to one of reassurance and recovery.

This notion that pain is defined by the context in which it occurs is crucial (Carlino et al., 2014). For instance, childbirth, despite being intensely painful, is understood within the context of a natural and temporary process that leads to the birth of a child. This perception is often reinforced nonverbally by a supportive midwife or doula. It may be helpful if the midwife or doula has given birth herself. Without words she communicates, “This is an experience that you can transcend, just as I did.” Psychologically/emotionally, the pain serves a higher purpose, to deliver a child into the world, which may also make the pain more bearable. There is a reward, namely the child. In addition, women who have had training and information about the process of childbirth have a significant faster delivery (about 2 hours faster).

Piercing the body without reporting pain or bleeding

To further illustrate this concept, Peper et al. (2006) and Kakigi et al. (2005) physiologically monitored the experiences of a Japanese Yogi Master, Mitsumasa Kawakami,who performed voluntary body piercing with unsterilized skewers, as depicted in Figure 3 (Peper, 2015).

Figure 3. Demonstration Japanese Yogi Master, Mitsumasa Kawakami, voluntary piercing the tongue and neck with unsterilized skewers while experiencing no pain, bleeding or infection (reproduced by permission from Peper et al., 2006).

See the video recording of tongue piercing study recorded November 11, 2000, at the annual Biofeedback Society Meeting of California, Monterey, CA, https://youtu.be/f7hafkUuoU4 (Peper & Gunkelman, 2007).

Despite the visual discomfort of seeing this procedure, physiological data from pulse, EEG and breathing patterns revealed that the yogi did not experience pain. During the piercing, his heart rate was elevated, his electrodermal activity was low and unresponsive, and his EEG showed predominant alpha waves, indicating a state of focused meditation rather than pain. This study suggests that conscious self-regulation, rather than dissociation, can be employed to control attention and responsiveness to painful stimuli and possibly benefit individuals with chronic pain (Peper et al., 2005).

A similar phenomenon was observed among a spiritual gathering of Kasnazani Sufi initiates in Amman, Jordan and physiologically monitored during demonstrations as part of a scientific meeting. The Kasnazani order is a branch of Sufism that has gained widespread popularity in Iraq and Iran, particularly among the Kurdish population. What sets the Kasnazani order apart is its inclusive approach—it welcomes both Sunni and Shia Muslims, making no distinction between them. During spiritual gatherings, some followers perform acts that might seem extreme to outsiders: piercing their bodies. These acts are seen as expressions of deep spiritual devotion and are performed in a state believed to be beyond normal physical sensation. With the permission of their Sheikh Mohammed Abdul Kareem Kasnazani, they pierced their face, neck arms, or chest and reported no pain or bleeding and heal quickly, as shown in Figure 4.

Figure 4. Voluntary piercing and with unsterilized skewers by Sufi initiates and subsequent tissue healing after 14 hours.

See the video recording of the actual piercing study organized by Erik Peper and Howard Hall with Thomas Collura recording the QEEG at the 2013 Annual Scientific Meeting of the Association for Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback, Portland, OR (Peper & Hall, 2013; Collura et al., 2014), https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56nLZyG87oc

What Factors Decrease the Experience of Pain and Promote Rapid Healing with the Absence of Bleeding?

In the case of the Kasnazani Sufis, they framed their experience as a normal, spiritual phenomenon that occurs in a setting of religious faith and total trust in their spiritual leader (Hall, 2011). The Sufis reported that they had permission and support from their master, Sheikh Mohammed Abdul Kareem Kasnazani. Thus, they felt totally safe and protected—they had no doubt they could experience the piercing with reasonable composure and that their bodies would totally heal. Even if pain occurred, it was not to be feared but part of the process. The experience may be modulated by the psychological context of the group, the drumming, and the chanting. The phenomenon was not simply a matter of belief; they knew that healing would occur because they had seen it many times in the past. The knowledge that healing would occur rapidly was transmitted as a felt sense in the group that this is possible and following the expected normal pattern.

The most impressive finding was that the physiology markers (heart rate, skin conductance, and breathing) were normal and there was no notable change (Booiman et al., 2015; Peper & Hall, 2013) and the QEEG indicated the inhibition of pain (Collura et al., 2014).

Clinical implications

These observations underscore that the context of pain—whether through personal meaning, spiritual belief, or communal support—can significantly alter its perception and management. This concept is also reflected in clinical settings, where a lack of diagnosis or acknowledgment of pain can exacerbate suffering. An isolated individual, alone at night with the physical sensation of pain, may find the pain tremendously stressful, which tends to intensify the experience. In this situation, there are concerns about the future: “It may get worse, it will not go away, I’m going to die from this, maybe I’ll die alone,” and the worry continues.

If one can let go of these thoughts, breathe through the pain, relax the muscles and experience a feeling of hope, the pain is often reduced. On the other hand, focusing on the pain may intensify it. On the other hand, the meaning of pain implies survival or hope as sometimes is observed in injured soldiers. In context of the hospital setting: “I have survived and I am safe.”
What are the implications of these experiences in clinical settings in which the patient is in constant pain and yet has not received an accurate diagnosis? Or, in cases in which the patient has a diagnosis, such as fibromyalgia, but treatment has not reduced the pain significantly? Experiencing pain or illness that goes undiagnosed, and/or that is not acknowledged, may increase the level of stress and tension, which can contribute to more pain and discomfort. As long as we are resentful/angry/resigned to the pain or especially to the event that we believe has caused the pain, the pain often increases. Another way to phrase this is that chronic sympathetic arousal increases the sensitivity to pain and reduces healing potential (Kyle & McNeil, 2014).

Acknowledgement means having an accurate diagnosis, validating that the pain experience is legitimate and that it is not psychosomatic (imagined), because that simply makes the experience of pain worse. Once the patient has a more accurate diagnosis, treatment may be possible.

When one has constant, chronic, or unrelenting pain, this evokes hopelessness and the patient is more likely to get depressed (Sheng et al., 2017; Meda et al., 2022). The question is, What can be done? The first step for the patients is to acknowledge to themselves that it does not mean that the situation is unsolvable. It is important to focus on other options for diagnosis and treatment and take one’s own lead in the healing/recovery process. We have observed that a creative activity that uses the signals of pain to evoke images and thoughts to promote healing may reduce pain (Peper et al., 2022). Pain awareness may be reduced when the person initiates actions that contribute to improving the well-being of others.

Overall, pain appears to decrease when a person accepts without resignation what has happened or is happening. A useful practice that may change the pain experience is to do an appreciation practice. Namely, appreciate what that part of the body has done for you and how so often in the past you may have abused it. For example, if you experience hip pain, each time you are aware of the pain, thank the hip for all the work it has done for you in the past and how often you may have neglected it. Keep thanking it for how it has supported you.

Pain often increases when the person is resentful or wished that what has happened had not happened (Burns et al., 2011). If the person can accept where they are and focus on the new opportunities and new goals can achieve, pain may still occur; however, the quality is different. Focus on what you can do and not on what you cannot do. See Janine Shepherd’s 2012 empowering TED talk, “A broken body isn’t a broken person.”

Conclusion

The primary lessons from studying the yogi and the Sufis are the concepts that a sense of safety, acceptance, and purpose can transform the experience of pain. Expressing confidence in a patient’s recovery prospects places the focus on their ability to recover. Incorporating these elements into clinical care may offer new avenues for addressing chronic pain and improving patient outcomes (Booiman & Peper, 2021).

We propose the first step is to create an atmosphere of hope, trust and safety and to emphasize the improvements made (even small ones). Then master effortless breathing to increase slow diaphragmatic breathing and teach clients somato-cognitive techniques to refocus their attention during painful stimuli (mindfulness) (Pelletier & Peper, 1977; Peper et al., 2022). Using the slow breathing as the overlearned response would facilitate the recovery and regeneration following the painful situation. To develop mastery and be able to apply it under stressful situations requires training and over-learning. Yoga masters overlearned these skills with many years of meditation. With mastery, patients may learn to abort the escalating cycle of pain, worry, exhaustion, more pain, and hopelessness by shifting their attention and psychophysiological responses. In clinical practice, strategies such as hypnotic induction, multisensory distraction, self-healing visualizations, and mindfulness techniques can be employed to manage pain. A foundational principle is that healing is promoted when the participant feels safe and accepted, experiences suffering without blame, and looks forward to life with meaning and purpose.

Acknowledgement

We thank Mitsumasa Kawakami, Sheikh Mohammed Abdul Kareem Kasnazani, and Safaa Saleh for their generous participation in this research and I thank our research collegues Thomas Collura, Howard Hall and Jay Gunkelman for their support and collaboration.

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Addicted to Your Phone? How to Separate from Your Phone for a Healthy Lifestyle

From: Peper, E. (2025 April 15). Addicted to your phone? How to separate you’re your phone for a healthy lifestyle. Townsend Letter-Innovative Health Perspectives. https://townsendletter.com/addicted-to-your-phone-how-to-separate-from-your-phone-for-a-healthy-lifestyle/; Adapted from the book by Erik Peper, Richard Harvey and Nancy Faass, TechStress-How Technology is Hijacking our Lives, Strategies for Coping and Pragmatic Ergonomics, North Atlantic Press. https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Ergonomics-Prevent-Fatigue-Burnout/dp/158394768X/

Abstract

In today’s hyper-connected world, technology has subtly ensnared us in evolutionary traps, exploiting innate survival instincts to capture and fragment our attention. Although digital devices offer unprecedented convenience, they simultaneously may harm our mental, physical, and emotional well-being through prolonged screen exposure, digital distraction, and sedentary behavior. The unintended consequences of constant connectivity may increase anxiety, loneliness, and cognitive overload. Social media, Zoom fatigue, and media multitasking reinforce a cycle of passivity and diminished memory retention and attention span, while also reshaping our posture, behavior, and social interactions. The evidence suggests a growing mental health crisis. Yet, with conscious interventions such as digital detoxes, posture awareness, scheduled breaks, and sleep hygiene, we can reclaim our well-being. Rather than reject technology, we must learn to engage with it mindfully, respecting both our evolutionary design and the need for balance in a digital age.

Our Evolutionary Traps with Technology

Maintaining and optimizing health at the computer means re-envisioning our relationship with technology—and reclaiming health, happiness, and sanity in a plugged-in world. We have the ability to control everything from our mobile phones without needing to get up from our seat. Work, social life, and online learning all involve the mobile phone or some type of smart devices.

A convenient little device that is supposed to simplify our lives has actually trapped us into a vicious cycle of relying on it for every single thing we must do. We spend most of our day being exposed to digital displays on our smartphones, computers, gaming consoles, and other digital devices, immersing ourselves in the content we are viewing. From work related emails or tasks, to spending our free time looking at the screen for texting, playing games, and updating social media sites on a play-by-play of what we are eating, wearing, and doing. We click on one hyperlink after the other and create a vicious cycle trapped for hours until we realize we need to move. We are unaware how much time has frittered away without actually doing anything productive and then, we realize we have wasted another day.

Below are some recent estimates of ‘daily active user’ minutes per day that use a screen

• Facebook about an hour per day
• Instagram just under an hour per day
• Texting about 45 minutes per day
• Internet browsing, about 45 minutes per day
• Snapchat, about 30 minutes per day
• Twitter, about 25 minutes per day

Adolescents and college students interact with media for over 40 hours per week, or around six hours per day. That is a lot of hours spent on staring at the screen, which makes it almost impossible not to be distracted by the digital screen. In time, we rehearse a variety of physical body postures as well as a variety of cognitive and behavioral states that impact our physical, mental, emotional, and social health. The powerful audiovisual formats override our desires to do something different, that some of us become enslaved to streaming videos, playing virtual games, or texting. We then tell ourselves that the task that needs to be done, will be finished later. That later becomes never by the end of the day, since the ongoing visual and auditory notifications from our apps interrupt and/or capture our attention. This difficulty to turn away from visual or auditory stimuli roots in our survival instincts.

Each time visual or auditory stimuli occur, we automatically check it out and see if it is a friend or foe, safety or danger. It is such an automatic response that we are unaware we are reacting. The good news is that we all have experienced this compelling effect. Even when we are waiting for a response and the notification has not arrived, we may anticipate or project that there may be new information on our social media accounts, and sometimes we become disappointed when the interval between notifications is long. As one student said, “Don’t worry, they’ll respond. It’s only been 30 seconds.” Anticipating responses from the media can interrupt what we are otherwise doing. Rather than finishing our work or task, we continuously check for updates on social media, even though we probably know that there are no new important messages to which we would have to respond right away. As a result our attention span has decreased from 150 seconds in 2004 to 44 seconds in 2021 (Mark, 2023).

Unfortunately, some forms of social media interactions also lead to a form of social isolation, loneliness–sometimes called phoneliness (Christodoulou, G., Majmundar, A., Chou, C-P, & Pentz, M.A., 2020; Kardaras, 2017). Digital content requires the individual to respond to the digital stimuli, without being aware of the many verbal and nonverbal communication cues (facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice, eye contact, body language, posture, touch, etc.) that are part of social communication (Remland, 2016).

It is no wonder that more and more adolescents are experiencing anxiety, depression, loneliness, and attention deficit disorders due to a constant “digital diet,” which some have argued includes not only media but also junk food. Mental health trends have significantly worsened, particularly since 2013. Pediatric mental health–related emergency department visits increased by 70% from 2011 to 2020, rising from 4.8 million to 7.5 million—a shift from 7.7% to 13.1% of all pediatric emergency visits. The greatest increases were observed among adolescents and across all sexes, races, and ethnicities. Suicide-related visits nearly quintupled from 2011 to 2023, increasing from 0.9% to 4.2% of all pediatric emergency department visits (Bommersbach et al., 2023).

In my class survey of 99 college students, 85% reported experiencing anxiety, 48% neck and shoulder tension, and 41% abdominal discomfort.

For the age groups 18–23 and 24–29—but not for those over 30—the rates of serious psychological distress and major depressive episodes nearly doubled from 2013 to 2019 (Braghieri et al, 2022). During this same period, there was also a significant decline in academic performance, with math scores for 8th graders and reading scores for 4th graders dropping from around 2013 to 2024, except among top-performing students (Mervosh, 2025).
We are not saying to avoid the beneficial parts of the digital age. Instead, it should be used in moderation and to be aware of how some material and digital platforms prey upon our evolutionary survival mechanisms. Unfortunately, most people – especially children – have not evolved skills to counter the negative impacts of some types of media exposure. Parental control and societal policies may be needed to mitigate the damage and enhance the benefits of the digital age.

Zoom Fatigue – How to Reduce it and Configure your Brain for Better Learning

Zoom became the preferred platform for academic teaching and learning for synchronous education during the pandemic. Thus, students and faculty have been sitting and looking at the screen for hours on end. While looking at the screen, the viewers were often distracted by events in their environment, notifications from their mobile phones, social media triggers, and emails; which promoted multitasking (Solis, 2019). These digital distractions cause people to respond to twice as many devices with half of our attention – a process labeled semi-tasking’– meaning getting twice as much done and half as well.

We now check our phones an average of 96 times a day – that is once every 10 minutes and an increase of 20% as compared to two years ago (Asurion Research, 2019). Those who do media multitasking such as texting while doing a task perform significantly worse on memory tasks than those who are not multitasking (Madore et al., 2020). Multitasking is negatively correlated with school performance (Giunchiglia et al, 2018). The best way to reduce multitasking is to turn off all notifications (e.g., email, texts, and social media) and let people know that you will look at the notifications and then respond in a predetermined time, so that you will not be interrupted while working or studying.

When students in my class chose to implement a behavior change to monitor mobile phone and media use and reduce the addictive behavior during a five-week self-healing project, many reported a significant improvement of health and performance. For example one student reported that when she reduced her mobile phone use, her stress level equally decreased as shown in Figure 1 (Peper et al, 2021).

Figure 1. Example of student changing mobile phone use and corresponding decrease in subjective stress level. Reproduced by permission from Peper et al. (2021).

During this class project, many students observed that the continuous responding to notifications and social media affected their health and productivity. As one student reported: The discovery of the time I wasted giving into distractions was increasing my anxiety, increasing my depression and making me feel completely inadequate. In the five-week period, I cut my cell phone usage by over half, from 32.5 hours to exactly 15 hours and used some of the time to do an early morning run in the park. Rediscovering this time makes me feel like my possibilities are endless. I can go to work full time, take online night courses reaching towards my goal of a higher degree, plus complete all my homework, take care of the house and chores, cook all my meals, and add reading a book for fun! –22-year-old College Student

Numerous students reported that it was much easier to be distracted and multitask, check social media accounts or respond to emails and texts than during face-to-face classroom sessions as illustrated by two student comments from San Francisco State University.
“Now that we are forced to stay at home, it’s hard to find time by myself/for myself, time to study, and or time to get away. It’s easy to get distracted and go a bit stir-crazy.”
“I find that online learning is more difficult for me because it’s harder for me to stay concentrated all day just looking at the screen.”

Students often reported that they had more difficulty remembering the material presented during synchronous presentations. Most likely, the passivity while watching Zoom presentations affected the encoding and consolidation of new material into retrievable long-term memory. The presented material was rapidly forgotten when the next screen image or advertisement appeared and competed with the course instructor for the student’s attention. We hypothesize that the many hours of watching TV and streaming videos have conditioned people to sit and take in information passively, while discouraging them to respond or initiate action (Mander, 1978; Mărchidan, 2019).

To reduce the deleterious impact of media use, China has placed time limits on cellphone use, gaming, and social media use for children. On February 2021 Chinese children were banned from taking their mobile phones into school (Wakefield, 2021), on August 2021 Children under 18 were banned from playing video games during the week and their play was restricted to just one hour on Fridays, weekends and holidays (McDonell, 2021) and beginning on September 20, 2021 children under 14 who have been authenticated using their real name can access Douyin, the Chinese version of Tik Tok, for maximum of 40 minutes a day between the hours of 6:00 and 22:00 (BBC, 2021).

Maintaining a healthy vision: We increase near visual stress and the risk of developing myopia when we predominantly look at nearby surfaces. We do not realize that eye muscles can only relax when looking at the far distance. For young children, the constant near vision remodels the shape of the eye and the child will likely develop near sightedness. The solutions are remarkably simple. Respect your evolutionary background and allow your eyes to spontaneously alternate between looking at near and far objects while being upright (Schneider, 2016; Peper, 2021; Peper, Harvey & Faass, 2020).

Interrupt sitting disease: We sit for the majority of the day while looking at screens that is a significant risk factor for diabetes, cardiovascular disease, depression and anxiety (Matthews et al., 2012; Smith et al., 2020). Interrupt sitting by getting up every 30 minutes and do a few stretches. You will tend to feel less sleepy, less discomfort and more productive. As one of our participants reported that when he got up, moved and exercised every 30 minutes at the end of the day he felt less tired. As he stated, “There is life after five,” which meant he had energy to do other activities after working at the computer the whole day. While working time flies and it is challenging to get up every 30 minutes. Thus, install a free app on your computer that reminds you to get up and move such as StretchBreak (www.stretchbreak.com).

Use slouching as a cue to change: Posture affects thoughts and emotions as well as, vice versa. When stressed or worried (e.g., school performance, job security, family conflict, undefined symptoms, or financial insecurity), our bodies tend to respond by slightly collapsing and shifting into a protective position.

When we are upright and look up, we are more likely to:
• Have more energy (Peper & Lin, 2012).
• Feel stronger (Peper, Booiman, Lin, & Harvey, 2016).
• Find it easier to do cognitive activity (Peper, Harvey, Mason, & Lin, 2018).
• Feel more confident and empowered (Cuddy, 2012).
• Recall more positive autobiographical memories (Michalak, Mischnat,& Teismann, 2014).

The challenge is that we are usually unaware we have begun to slouch. A very useful solution is to use a posture feedback device to remind us, such as the UpRight Go (https://www.uprightpose.com/). This simple device and app signals you when you slouch. The device attaches to your neck and connects with blue tooth to your cellphone. After calibrating, it provides vibrational feedback on your neck each time you slouch. When participants use the vibration feedback to become aware of what is going on and interrupt their slouch by stretching and sitting up, they report a significant decrease in symptoms and an increase in productivity. As one student reported: “Having immediate feedback on my posture helped me to be more aware of my body and helped me to link my posture to my emotions. Before using the tracker, doing this was very difficult for me. It not only helped my posture but my awareness of my mental state as well.”

Additional blogs
https://peperperspective.com/2023/07/04/reflections-on-the-increase-in-autism-adhd-anxiety-and-depression-part-1-bonding-screen-time-and-circadian-rhythms/

https://peperperspective.com/2023/08/30/techstress-building-healthier-computer-habits/
https://peperperspective.com/2024/09/04/cellphones-affects-social-communication-vision-breathing-and-health-what-to-do/

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Peper, E., Harvey, R., Mason, L., & Lin, I.-M. (2018). Do better in math: How your body posture may change stereotype threat response. NeuroRegulation, 5(2), 67–74. http://dx.doi.org/10.15540/nr.5.2.67

Peper, E. & Lin, I-M. (2012). Increase or decrease depression-How body postures influence your energy level. Biofeedback, 40 (3), 126-130. https://doi.org/10.5298/1081-5937-40.3.01

Peper, E., Lin, I-M., Harvey, R., & Perez, J. (2017). How posture affects memory recall and mood. Biofeedback. 45 (2), 36-41. https://doi.org/10.5298/1081-5937-45.2.01

Peper, E., Wilson, V., Martin, M., Rosegard, E., & Harvey, R. (2021). Avoid Zoom fatigue, be present and learn. NeuroRegulation, 8(1), 47–56. https://doi.org/10.15540/nr.8.1.47

Remland, M.S. Nonverbal Communication in Everyday Life 4th Edition. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications. https://www.amazon.com/Nonverbal-Communication-Everyday-Martin-Remland/dp/1483370259

Riskind, J.H., Gotay, C.C. Physical posture: Could it have regulatory or feedback effects on motivation and emotion?. Motiv Emot 6, 273–298 (1982). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF00992249

Schneider, M. (2016). Vision for Life. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books. https://www.amazon.com/Vision-Life-Revised-Eyesight-Improvement/dp/1623170087

Smith, L., Jacob, L., Trott, M., Yakkundi, A., Butler, L., Barnett, Y., Armstrong, N.C., McDermott, D., Schuch, F., Meyer, J., López-Bueno, R., Sánchez, G.F.L., Bradley, D., Tully, M.A. (2020). The association between screen time and mental health during COVID-19: A cross sectional study, Psychiatry Research, (292). https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psychres.2020.11333

Solis, B. (2019). How Managers Can Help Workers Tackle Digital Distractions. MIT Sloan Management Review, 60(4), 1-3. https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/how-managers-can-help-workers-tackle-digital-distractions/

Tsai, H. Y., Peper, E., & Lin, I. M.* (2016). EEG patterns under positive/negative body postures and emotion recall tasks. NeuroRegulation, 3(1), 23-27. https://doi.org/10.15540/nr.3.1.23

Wakefield, J. (2021), February 2). China bans children from using mobile phones at school. BBC. Accessed April 12, 2025. https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-55902778

Weisfeld, G.E., Beresford, J.M. Erectness of posture as an indicator of dominance or success in humans. Motiv Emot 6, 113–131 (1982). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF00992459


Fever can save your life

Erik Peper, PhD and Robert Gorter, MD, PhD

Adapted from: Peper, E. & Gorter, R. (2025). Fever can save your life. Townsend Letter-Innovative Health Perspective. Published March 27, 2025. https://townsendletter.com/fever-can-save-your-life/


My child’s fever was 102 F° and I was worried. I made my daughter comfortable, gave her some liquids and applied a lemon wrap around the calves. Fifteen minutes later the fever was down by a degree and a half to 100.5 F.° I continue to check how my child was doing. I touched her forehead and noted that it became slightly cooler. By the next day the fever had broken, and my daughter felt much better.

Although fever can be uncomfortable, in most casest is not something to be feared. Rather than suppressing it, allow the fever to run its course, as fevers can improve clinical outcomes. Research findings indicate that individuals who experience an increase in body temperature (i.e., a fever) have higher survival rates following infection (Repasky et al., 2013). Spontaneous remissions of cancer—altogether a rarer event—have been observed repeatedly in connection with febrile infectious diseases, especially those of bacterial origin (Kienle, 2012). Late in 19th and early 20th century, Prof Coley observed that in patients who had wound fever or fevers that were induced by injecting bacterial toxins, their cancer sometimes disappeared (Kienle, 2012). In the early 20th century, inducing fever with injecting a bacterial toxin became an acceptable and somewhat successful treatment strategy for treating cancer (Karamanou, et al., 2013; Kendell et al, 1969). It was even a fairly successful treatment for neuro-syphilis before advent of antibiotics. Malaria-induced fevers were used as a treatment for neurosyphilis from the 1920s until the 1950s,—the spiking fevers associated with malaria killed the bacteria that caused the syphilitic infection (Gambino, 2015). The fever therapy slowly disappeared as antibiotics (penicillin), chemotherapy and radiation tended to be more effective.

Although suppressing fever with medication may make you feel more comfortable, and in some cases allow a child to go to day care, it may be harmful. Dr. Schulman and colleagues at the University of Miami Leonard M. Miller School of Medicine demonstrated in a randomized controlled study that, among similar patients admitted to the ICU, the risk of death was seven times higher for those who received fever-reducing medication compared to those who did not (Schulman et al., 2005).(Schulman et al., 2005).

Fever reducing medication may in rare cases lead to complications. For example, aspirin may cause stomach irritation and ulcers as well as being cofactor in Reye’s syndrome (Temple, 1981; Schrör 2007). While acetaminophen (also known as paracetamol), often given to young children, may increase the risk of allergic rhinitis and possibly asthma by the age of six (Caballero, et al., 2015; McBride, 2011). As McBride point out, there appears to be a correlation between acetaminophen use and asthma across all groups, ages and location. This correlation even holds up for mothers who took acetaminophen during pregnancy as their children have increased risk for asthma by age six.

As Bauer and colleagues (Bauer et al., 2021) point out: “Paracetamol (N-acetyl-p-aminophenol (APAP), otherwise known as acetaminophen) is the active ingredient in more than 600 medications (Excedrine) used to relieve mild to moderate pain and reduce fever. Research suggests that prenatal exposure to APAP might alter fetal development, which could increase the risks of some neurodevelopmental, reproductive and urogenital disorders. Pregnant women should be cautioned at the beginning of pregnancy to: forego APAP unless its use is medically indicated. This Consensus Statement reflects our concerns and is currently supported by 91 scientists, clinicians and public health professionals from across the globe.”

Finally, we wonder whether active fever suppression during childhood might condition the immune system not to initiate a fever response through the process of classical conditioning, thereby reducing the immune system’s overall competence. This could be a contributing factor to the increasing rates of allergies, immune disorders, and the earlier onset of certain cancers (Gorter & Peper, 2011). Specifically, if a person begins to develop a fever and medication was used to reduce it, over time the fever response may become automatically inhibited through covert classical conditioning.

Simple home remedy when having a fever?

  1. Practice watchful waiting. This means monitoring the person and only use medication to reduce fever if necessary. When in doubt contact your physician. Remember, in almost all cases, fever is not the illness; it is the body’s response to fight the illness and regain health.
  2. Hydrate. When having a fever, we perspire and need more fluids. Thus, increase fluid intake. Almost all cultural traditions recommend drinking some fluids such as hot water with lemon juice and honey, chicken soup broth, etc.
  3. Reframe the experience as a healing experience versus an illness experience. For example, when a fever, reframe it possitively such as, I feel pleased that my body is responding and I trust that my body is fighting the illness well (or even better).
  4. Implement the following gentle self-care approaches (Schirm, 2018).
    Lemon wrap around calves or feet may help reduce fevers by using the cooling properties of lemon and evaporating water. How to make lemon wraps:
    • Fill a bowl with water that’s 2–3° C below your fever temperature.
    • Add 1–2 lemon halves.
    • Score the lemon peel with a knife to release essential oils.
    • Mash the lemons in the water.
    • Soak a cloth in the lemon water.
    • Wrap the cloth around your calves from ankle to knee.
    • Cover with a blanket and rest for 10–15 minutes.
    • Repeat as needed.
    “Tips for using lemon wraps
    • Change the wraps when they become warm.
    • If your feet get cold, stop using the wraps.
    • Don’t over-bundle a child with blankets, as babies can’t regulate their body temperatures as well as adults.

The information in this blog is designed for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. This information should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problems or illnesses without consulting a doctor. Consult with a health care practitioner before relying on any information in this article or on this website.

References

Bauer, A.Z., Swan, S.H., Kriebel, D. et al. Paracetamol use during pregnancy — a call for precautionary action. Nat Rev Endocrinol (2021). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41574-021-00553-7

Caballero, N., Welch, K. C., Carpenter, P. S., Mehrotra, S., O’Connell, T. F., & Foecking, E. M. (2015). Association between chronic acetaminophen exposure and allergic rhinitis in a rat model. Allergy & rhinology (Providence, R.I.), 6(3), 162–167. https://doi.org/10.2500/ar.2015.6.0131

Gambino, M. (2015). Fevered Decisions: Race, Ethics, and Clinical Vulnerability in the Malarial Treatment of Neurosyphilis, 1922-1953. Hastings Center Report. https://doi.org/10.1002/hast.451

Gorter, R. & Peper, E. (2011). Fighting Cancer: A Nontoxic Approach to Treatment. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books. https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Cancer-Nontoxic-Approach-Treatment/dp/1583942483

Karamanou, M., Liappas, I., Antoniou, C.h, Androutsos, G., & Lykouras, E. (2013). Julius Wagner-Jauregg (1857-1940): Introducing fever therapy in the treatment of neurosyphilis. Psychiatrike = Psychiatriki, 24(3), 208–212. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24185088/

Kendell, H. W., Rose, D. L., & Simpson, W. M. (1969). Fever therapy technique in syphilis and gonococcic infections. Archives of physical medicine and rehabilitation, 50(10), 603–608. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/4981888/

Kienle G. S. (2012). Fever in Cancer Treatment: Coley’s Therapy and Epidemiologic Observations. Global advances in health and medicine, 1(1), 92–100. https://doi.org/10.7453/gahmj.2012.1.1.016

McBride, J.T. (2011). The Association of Acetaminophen and Asthma Prevalence and Severity. Pediatrics, 128(6), 1181–1185. https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2011-1106

Repasky, E. A., Evans, S. S., & Dewhirst, M. W. (2013). Temperature matters! And why it should matter to tumor immunologists. Cancer immunology research, 1(4), 210–216. https://doi.org/10.1158/2326-6066.CIR-13-0118

Schirm, J. (2018). Essentials of homecare-A gentle approach to healing. Holistic Essence. https://www.amazon.com/Essentials-Home-Care-II-Approach/dp/0692121250

Schulman, C. I., Namias, N., Doherty, J., Manning, R. J., Li, P., Elhaddad, A., Lasko, D., Amortegui, J., Dy, C. J., Dlugasch, L., Baracco, G., & Cohn, S. M. (2005). The effect of antipyretic therapy upon outcomes in critically ill patients: a randomized, prospective study. Surgical infections, 6(4), 369–375. https://doi.org/10.1089/sur.2005.6.369

Schrör K. (2007). Aspirin and Reye syndrome: a review of the evidence. Paediatric drugs, 9(3), 195–204. https://doi.org/10.2165/00148581-200709030-00008

Temple, A.R. (1981). Acute and Chronic Effects of Aspirin Toxicity and Their Treatment. Arch Intern Med, 141(3), 364–369. https://doi.org/10.1001/archinte.1981.00340030096017



Use the power of your mind to transform health and aging

Most of the time when I drive or commute  by BART, I listen to podcasts (e.g., Freakonomics, Hidden Brain, this podcast will kill youScience VS, Huberman Lab). although many of the podcasts are highly informative; , rarely do I think that everyone could benefit from it.  The recent podcast, Using your mind to control your health and longevity, is an exception. In this podcast, neuroscientist Andrew Huberman interviews Professor Ellen Langer. Although it is three hours and twenty-two minute long, every minute is worth it (just skip the advertisements by Huberman which interrupts the flow). Dr. Langer delves into how our thoughts, perceptions, and mindfulness practices can profoundly influence our physical well-being.

She presents compelling evidence that our mental states are intricately linked to our physical health. She discusses how our perceptions of time and control can significantly impact healing rates, hormonal balance, immune function, and overall longevity. By reframing our understanding of mindfulness—not merely as a meditative practice but as an active, moment-to-moment engagement with our environment—we can harness our mental faculties to foster better health outcomes. The episode also highlights practical applications of Dr. Langer’s research, offering insights into how adopting a mindful approach to daily life can lead to remarkable health benefits. By noticing new things and embracing uncertainty, individuals can break free from mindless routines, reduce stress, and enhance their overall quality of life. This podcast is a must-listen for anyone interested in the profound connection between mind and body. It provides valuable tools and perspectives for those seeking to take an active role in their health and well-being through the power of mindful thinking. It will change your perspective and improve your health. Listen to or watch the interview:

Podcast: https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/dr-ellen-langer-using-your-mind-to-control-your-physical-health-longevity

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYAgf_lfio4

Useful blogs to reduce stress


From Conflict to Calm: Reframing Stress and Finding Peace with Difficult People

Adapted from: Peper, E. (2025, Feb 15). From Conflict to Calm: Reframing Stress and Finding Peace with Difficult People. Townsend Letter-Innovative Health Perspectives. https://townsendletter.com/from-conflict-to-calm-reframing-stress-and-finding-peace-with-difficult-people/

After living in our house for a few years, a new neighbor moved in next door. Within months, she accused us of moving things in her yard, blamed us when there was a leak in her house, dumped her leaves from her property onto other neighbors’ properties, and even screamed at her tenants to the extent that the police were called numerous times.

Just looking at her house through the window was enough to make my shoulders tighten and leave me feeling upset. When I drove home and saw her standing  in front of her house, I would drive around the block one more time to avoid her while feeling my body contract. Often, when I woke up in the morning, I would already anticipate conflict with my neighbor. I would share stories of my disturbing neighbor and her antics with my friends. They were very supportive and agreed with me that she was crazy.

However, this did not resolve my anger, indignation, or the anxiety that was triggered whenever I saw her or thought of her. I spent far too much time anticipating and thinking about her, which resulted in tension in my own body—my heart rate would increase, and my neck and shoulders would tighten. I decided to change. I knew I could not change her; however, I could change my reactivity and perspective.

Thus, I practiced the “Pause and Recenter” technique described in the blog. At the first moment of awareness that I was thinking about her or her actions, I would change my posture by sitting up straight and looking upward, breathe lower and slower, and then, in my mind’s eye, send a thought of goodwill streaming to her like an ocean wave flowing through and around her in the distance. I choose to  do this because I believe that within every person, no matter how crazy or cruel, there is a part that is good, and it is that part I want to support.

I repeated this many times—whenever I looked in the direction of her house or saw her in her yard. I also reframed her aggressive, negative behavior as her way of coping with her own demons. Three months later, I no longer react defensively. When I see her, I can say hello and discuss the weather without triggering my defensive reaction. I feel so much more at peace living where I am.

When stressed, angry, rejected, frustrated, or hurt, we so often blame the other person. The moment we think about that person or event, our anger, indignation, resentment, and frustration are triggered. We keep rehashing what happened. As we do this, we are unaware that we are reliving the past event and are often unaware of the harm we are doing to ourselves until we experience symptoms such as high blood pressure, gastrointestinal distress, insomnia, anxiety, or muscle tightness. As we think of the event or interact again with that person, our body automatically responds with a defense reaction as if we are actually being threatened. This response activates the defense to protect ourselves from harm— the person is not a threat like the saber-toothed tiger ready to attack. Yet we respond as if the person is the tiger.

This defense reaction activates our “fight or flight” responses and increases sympathetic activation so that we can run faster and fight more ferociously to survive; however, it reduces blood flow through the frontal cortex—a process that reduces our ability to think rationally (Willeumier, et al., 2011; van Dinther et al., 2024). When we become so upset and stressed that our mind is captured by the other person, it contributes to an increase in hypertension, myofascial pain, depression, insomnia, cardiovascular disease, and other chronic disorders (Russel et al., 2015Suls, 2013; Duan et al., 2022). 

Our initial response of sharing our frustrations with others is normal. It feels good to blame the other; however, over time, the only person who gets hurt is yourself (Fast & Tiedens, 2010; Lou et al., 2023). The time spent rehashing and justifying our feelings diminishes our time we are in the present moment or focus on upcoming opportunities.

We may not realize that we have a choice. We can keep living and reacting to past hurt or losses, or we can let go and/or forgive and make space for new opportunities. Although the choice is ours, it is often very challenging to implement—even with the best intentions—as we react automatically when reminded of the past hurt (seeing that person, anticipating meeting or actually meeting that person who caused the hurt, or being triggered by other events that evoke memories of the pain).  

What can you do

If choose to change your response and reactivity, it does not mean you condone what happened or agree that the other person was right.  You are just choosing to live your life and not continue to be captured and react to the previous triggers. Many people report that after implementing some of the practices described below or others stress management techniques frequently their automatic reactivity was significantly reduced. They report that their symptoms are reduced and have the freedom to live in present instead of being captured by the painful past.

Pause and recenter

Our automatic reaction to the trigger elicits a defense reaction that reduces our ability to think rationally. Therefore, the moment you anticipate or begin to react, take three very slow diaphragmatic breaths.  As you inhale, allow your abdomen to expand; then, as you exhale slowlymake your yourself tall and look up. Looking up allows easier access to empowering and positive memories (Peper et al., 2017). Continue looking up and inhale slowly allow the abdomen to expand. Repeat this slow breath again.

On the third breath, while looking up, evoke a memory of someone in whose presence you felt at peace and who loves –you such as your grandmother, aunt or uncle or your dog. Reawaken that feeling associated with that memory.  Allow a smile with soft eyes to come to your face as you experience the loving memory. Then, put your hands on your chest, take a  breath as your abdomen to expands, and as you exhale, bring  your hands away from your chest and stretch them out in front of you. At the same time,  in your mind’s eye imagine sending good will to that person or conflict that previously evoked your stress response.

As you do this, you are not condoning what happened; instead, you are sending goodwill to that person’s positive aspect. From this perspective, everyone has an intrinsic component—however small—that some label as Christ nature or Buddha nature.

Why could this be effective?  This practice short-circuits the automatic stress response and provides time to recenter. It interrupts ongoing rumination by shifting the mind away from thoughts about the person or event that induces stress and toward a positive memory. Evoking a loving memory from the past facilitates a reduction in arousal, evokes a positive mood, and decreases sympathetic nervous system activation (Speer & Delgado, 2017).  Additionally, slower diaphragmatic breathing reduces sympathetic activation (Birdee et al., 2023; Siedlecki et al., 2022). By combining body and mind, we can pause and create the opportunity to respond positively rather than reacting with anger and hurt.

Practice sending goodwill the moment you wake up

So often when we wake up, we already anticipate the challenges and even the prospect of interacting with person or event heightens our defense reaction. Therefore, as soon as you wake up, sit at the edge of the bed, repeat the previous practice, Pause and Center. Then,  as you sit at the edge of the bed, slightly smile with soft eyes, look up, inhale as your abdomen  expand. Then, stamp your right foot into the floor while saying, “Today is a new day.” Next, inhale allowing your abdomen expand; as you look up,  stamp your left foot on the floor while saying, “Today is a new day.” Finally, send goodwill to the person who previously triggered your defensive reaction.

Why could this be effective?

Looking up makes it easier to access positive memories and thoughts. Stamping your foot on the ground is a non-verbal expression of determination and anchors the thought of a new day, thereby focuses on new opportunities (Feldman, 2022).

Discuss your issue from the third-person perspective instead of the first-person perspective

When thinking, ruminating, talking, texting, or writing about the event, discuss it from the third-person perspective. Replace the first-person pronoun “I” with “she” or “he.” For example, instead of saying:

I was really pissed off when my boss criticized my work without giving any positive suggestions for improvement,

Say:

He was really pissed off when his boss criticized his work without offering any positive suggestions for improvement.

Why could this be effective? The act of substituting the third person pronoun for the first-person pronoun interrupts our automatic reactivity because it requires us to observe and change our language, which activating the frontal cortex. This process creates a psychological distance from our feelings, allowing for a more objective and calmer perspective on the situation. It  effectively reducing stress by stepping back from the immediate emotional response (Moser et al., 2017).  It means that you are no longer fully captured by the emotions, as you are simultaneously the observer of your own inner language and speech.

Compare yourself to others who are suffering more

When you feel sorry for yourself or hurt, take a breath, look upward, and compare yourself to others who are suffering much more. In that moment, consider yourself incredibly lucky compared to people enduring extreme poverty, bombings, or severe disfigurement. Be grateful for what you have.

Why could this be effective?  The research data shows that if we have low self-esteem when we compare ourselves to people who are more successful (healthier, richer, or successful), we feel worse in comparison  and if we compare ourselves to other who are suffering more we feel better (Aspinwall, & Taylor, 1993). The comparision relativize our suffering. Thus our own suffering become less significant compared to the other people’s severe suffering.

Research shows that when we compare ourselves to people who are more successful (healthier, richer, or more accomplished), we tend to feel worse—especially if we have low self-esteem. However, when we compare ourselves to others who are suffering more, we tend to feel better (Aspinwall, & Taylor, 1993). This comparison relativizes our suffering, making our own hardships and suffering seem less significant compared to the severe suffering of others.

Interrupt the stress response   

When overwhelmed by a stress reaction, implement the recue techniques described in the article, Quick rescue techniques when stress  (Peper, Oded and Harvey, 2024) and the blog to help reduce stress.  https://peperperspective.com/2024/02/04/quick-rescue-techniques-when-stressed/

Conclusion

It is much easier to write and talk about these practices than to actually do them. Remembering and reminding yourself to implement them can be very challenging. It requires significant effort and commitment. In most cases, the benefits are not experienced immediately. However, when practiced many times over weeks and months, many people report feeling less resentment, experience a reduction in symptoms, and improvements in health and relationships.

*This blog was inspired by the podcast, No hard feelings, that featured psychologist Fred Luskin. It is an episode on Hidden Brain, produced by Shankar Vedantam (2025) and the wisdom  taught  by Dora Kunz (Kunz & Peper, 1983; Kunz and Peper, 1984a; Kunz and Peper, 1984b; Kunz and Peper, 1987).

Useful blog that complement the concepts in this blog

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